introducing asexual azelf!
Let’s go by this line by line.
tumblr people be like “asexuality is just a kind of sexuality, as normal as heterosexuality”It’s not just tumblr people, either. I know…
Thank you for writing so much in response.
I’ve done slightly more research and I know slightly more about asexuality than I did last night while wallowing at 3AM and searching for attention.
I wasn’t trolling, but I can’t deny I wasn’t trying to stir the pot.
I’m just gonna disappear now.
Oh! Well okay! Cool, I’m glad that you know more. That’s awesome. Thanks for responding back to me then all cool like. Have a nice day!
tumblr people be like “asexuality is just a kind of sexuality, as normal as heterosexuality”
lol you guys
you got a problem
Wait, are you sure you want to be enlightened so you can be less of an asshole? Because if you wanted to be enlightened you wouldn’t just say that the group of people “got a problem.” You would speculate maybe! But you wouldn’t tell people they’ve got a fucking problem, or at least I’d hope you wouldn’t. That’s kind of #rude.
I mean, this is a thing we commonly hear when we come out. I’d imagine after all the people saying that asexuals have got a problem, and yet asexuals are still asexuals would begin to clue people in that “you got a problem” isn’t helpful, isn’t changing anything, and is only serving to make asexuals feel more broken about a thing that otherwise they wouldn’t have any problem with.
But you’re right; We do have a problem. We have a problem with people inferring that there’s something wrong with us because we do not find anybody (or very few in cases of demi and gray asexuality) attractive. Our problem is not with our sexuality; it’s with people who make us feel bad for who we are and who we can’t help but be.
asexuality is not a selection on the spectrum of sexuality
Um, it kind of is. Here. I select it. I now have it! Congratulations me, I won asexuality! I joke I joke! I didn’t choose the asexual life, the asexual life chose me. (it’s funny because I literally didn’t choose it. Just like how most people don’t choose their sexuality, just the identifier.)
But more seriously, what just because you can’t imagine not being sexually attracted to people, it must not exist? You never experienced it, therefore NOT REAL! People identify with asexuality because it best describes how they feel.
Hypothetically, even if I did have “something wrong” beyond ignorant people around me, this still would not change my identifier. I’ll explain why; BECAUSE I’M NOT STRAIGHT! Oh, but guess what, it turns out, I’M NOT GAY EITHER!!! What am I? WELP! TURNS OUT I’M NOT BISEXUAL OR ANYTHING! It’s really fucking hard to describe yourself as a sexuality where you feel no sexual attraction towards. So what am I to say before I get my hypothetical help for my hypothetical problem? It doesn’t change how I feel about people. I don’t magically have an attraction to anyone that I can hold myself over and call. And actually labels in this case are very important. I spent enough years of my life not having a label to know that the difference between thinking I’m a “broken ????sexual” and an asexual was the difference in accepting myself for whom I am and loving myself instead.
Finally, even Kinsey fucking acknowledged us and he’s dead now. You know the Kinsey scale? It leaves out asexuals but hey guess what, Kinsey was aware of asexuals and was aware that his scale wasn’t perfect. It was just the best model he could make at the time. He call people who felt no sexual attraction, (people like me, people who are asexual) “Group X”. That was in 1948. He has bigger concerns at the time over the topic of bisexuality though, and not a large enough pool to do much with Group X, and people didn’t give a shit about it until recently with Anthony Bogheart’s discovery. “Apparently asexuality has been around all this time and we just didn’t study shit into it!” he thought to himself as he began putting his resource into it. Because the power of the internet gave asexuals a means to find each other, half the work was done for him already after he had taken a sexuality census in England that included “does not feel sexually attracted to anyone”. Funny how many fucking years it took to go from something we already knew to deciding it’s still a thing, but only now getting research and support from the scientific community.
people like sex because that is biology
People do like sex because that is biology. People also like posting really shitty things about other people’s sexualities on their personal blog behind a read more because that’s sociology. And yet not everybody does it.
Also “it’s biology! You have to like sex!” is a very, very heteronormative point of view. It use to be used to prove why homosexuality doesn’t exist. Still does sometimes! Because “You can’t have baby what point in sex amirite??” and “You can’t have baby what point in being alive amirite???” Because you’re not “carrying out the natural order in things”, by wanting to have sex with somebody with a more-or-less functioning opposite genitalia from your own and have baby… And “sex is the meaning of life” or so I am told disturbingly a lot. And there’s “no point in asexuals living” is what I also hear come after that sentence if it isn’t directed towards the gay people not having babies.
This all, also assumes that an asexual person cannot enjoy sex. Some do. I am not one of these people, but some do. We just don’t typically want it. Just like how a lesbian doesn’t want to have sex with a man, or a gay guy doesn’t want to have sex with a woman, and especially a straight man not wanting to have sex with a man, and a straight woman another woman. It’s possible to have sex. Some of us do due to circumstances or high sex drives. And just reiterating; sex drive isn’t sexual attraction.
Speaking of having one and not the other;
if you’re asexual that’s not a sexuality that’s just your libido is out of whack
Nnnnope. Sorry, I’m afraid to tell you, if you have a sexuality that’s not asexuality and your libido is “out of whack”, there is a thing called hypo sexual desire disorder (HSDD), but I don’t think you’re a doctor qualified to make that claim on all of us. People with HSDD are usually miserable about it, as well. And they seek help for a problem they feel they have. And that’s totally fucking cool. If you think you have a problem, and you think you have HSDD, and you’re not happy with your sex drive, and it’s not just because people make you feel BAD about it by the way they talk, I implore you to go see a doctor to make you feel better.
Asexuality isn’t that though. It isn’t HSDD. It’s actually specifically NOT HSDD. In the DMS-5 it even says where it describes HSDD “does not apply to asexuals.” The people who wrote this are doctors. Aaand you probably aren’t one. Asexuals are typically fine with being asexual. Some have libidos that are rockin it hardcore all the time, and some don’t. And the ones that don’t don’t really report having any kind of distress, probably because they don’t have the sexual attraction to make them feel distressed. And if asexual people are happy with being what they are, identifying as they do, who are you to come in and say they have something wrong with them and therefore they aren’t asexual?
And you know what? Some asexuals do have problems with them that may contribute to them identifying as asexual; there are asexuals out there with PTSD given by a sexual trauma. There are people who have other contributing factors from other trauma, physical or mental or whatever. But they’re still happy identifying as asexual. This might be because not having a name to describe how you feel in the same way as everybody else around you does… it hurts, and it makes you feel like you have zero power, and it makes you feel like you must be a freak or something. And if a word empowers people and make them feel okay with themselves about a thing they can’t change anyway… why would you take that away from them? It’s not hurting you at all, it’s HELPING people, and claiming everyone has something wrong with them, or even telling them they need to go see a doctor (like many of us tend to hear), that doesn’t help anything. That hurts people.
Anyway I’ve already been to the doctor about this because of how many people felt that I NEEDED to be fixed whether I wanted to be or not.
someone dispute me if i’m wrong
Every last thing you said. It was ignorant, was based on having done 0 research, and 0% trying to understand people. You could have asked people, but TOLD them WHAT THEY ARE AND ARE NOT instead. Nothing you stated here was founded on truth.
constantly torn between
‘hell yeah women are denied their sexuality so often you rock that sexy dance and revealing clothes and sex talk you are feminist and awesome’
‘we live in a sex-saturated sex-centred world and like ace people everywhere i would like to be able to turn on the tv or go on the internet without being bombarded with those images so we could really do with less of that thanks’
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here’s the thing. This tablet has 2024 levels of pressure- that is the equivalent to the pressure an intuos 5 currently has (retail price: $229 for the smallest)
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Only thing this beautiful table it lacking is a few simple buttons, but still, I mean, its drawing area is even bigger on average then most Wacom’s small tablets- and from the reviews ive seen on it people are very impressed….so just spreading the word around that Wacom isn’t the only one that is making good tablets- the more the company is spread perhaps they will come out with even better products that not only match up to Wacom, but are with in our price range for once!
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I literately just bought one of these and got it today omfg, its great you guys ok!
Reblogging for my drawing friends.
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My tablet’s been treating me well since 2009, but I figure any of my followers might benefit from this.
The last time I bought a cheaper-than-wacom tablet because Tumblr told me that every artist who needs a tablet and don’t have a lot of money should try it out, and oh yes I vouch for this, oh yeah look how big it is,
I ended up wasting my money and days of my life trying to get it to work. Troubleshooting it, asking my tech dad to see if he could troubleshoot it, googling for hours and hours, and even contacting tech support, only for them to ask me to send it back and they’d give me a new one.
The new one didn’t work at all either and that was my fucking birthday present and it was just a really large impractical paperweight.
I will never forget or forgive you, Monoprice!
I also learned my lesson and have decided to not listen to tumblr on matters of cheap-ass “as good as wacom” tablets.
"Some are born with busts, some are born with butts, but whatever makes you feel confident and like loving yourself more, be proud. I’m all for it. ”
Rebecca Black’s ‘Friday’ and Nyan Cat played on piano simultaneously
WHY IS THIS SO FUCKING BEAUTIFUL
LIKE IF I HEARD THIS W/O CAPTION I’D THINK IT WAS JUST THIS PRETTY CLASSICAL PIECE WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL
ROLLIN AROUND AT THE SPEED OF SOUND. GOT PLACES TO GO GOTTA FOLLOW MA RAIINNBOWWWW. CAN’T STICK AROUNNND HAVE TO KEEEP MOVIN ONN. JUST WHAT LIES AHEAD ONLY ONNEEE WAYYY TO FIIIIIND OUUUUUTTT.
*LOUD SCRAPING NOISE*
*JARRING CRUNCH OF DESTROYED AUTOMOBILES THROWN INTO THE AIR BY A GODDAMN HEDGEHOG*
*FRUSTRATED CONTROLLER THROW AS YOU MISS THE LAST FUCKING RAMP AND HIT THAT GODDAMN TROLLEY*
the speech impediment of the 21st century (by Marc Johns)
I’ll fuck you up buddy this is not a speech impediment it’s linguistic evolution!! the existence of the phrase “Aisha was like” allows the speaker to convey whatever Aisha said without making the listener assume they’re quoting Aisha directly while still maintaining the FEELING of what Aisha said.
ie, Aisha said she didn’t want to go out with me VERSUS Aisha was like, “I’d rather kiss a Wookie”.
the addition of “XYZ was like” lets the speaker be more expressive and efficient and it is a totally valid method of communicating information!!
With the way language has evolved, this is one of the few ways I can even think of to express in casual conversation what someone said.
"So I said to Aisha," is certainly used, but if you remove the "so," which implies casual tone ("and" can be used in the same way), you get
"I said to Aisha," which is really formal in most English dialects/variations. I don’t know about all, but in New England dialects, you sound like you’re reading aloud from a novel.
"I told Aisha," is really only used when you continue to describe, not tell, what you told her. Ex: "I told Aisha that James was too punk for her" works while, "I told Aisha, ‘James is too punk for you’" crosses the line back into formalness of the "I said."
Things like “I asked” or “I answered [with]” are similar levels of casual and efficient to the “So, I said [or say, as many conversations about the past take place in present tense anyway, as if the speaker is giving a play-by-play in the moment]” but are specific to only certain situations.
"I was like, 'Marc Johns, what is your obsession with restoring archaic speech patterns and interfering with the natural progression of English from complex to efficient?'" envelopes all of these easily and is accessible and crisp, and allows for more variations on inflection than the others.
Of course, James is probably like, “I already fucking said that.” But eh, I tried adding on.
This a million times